20 Things Every 20-Something Should Know About Sex
- Private TalkX
- Oct 6, 2024
- 4 min read
Sex in your 20s is exciting, full of exploration and self-discovery, but it can also be a bit intimidating. Whether you’re just starting your sexual journey or you’ve had some experience, there’s always more to learn.
Here’s a guide to help you navigate your sexual experiences with confidence, safety, and empowerment.
1. Consent is Sexy
Consent isn’t just a formality—it’s the foundation of any healthy sexual encounter. Make sure both you and your partner are fully on board, and remember, consent is ongoing. Check in with each other, because mutual respect is the ultimate turn-on.
2. Communication is Key
Talking about sex is important. Discuss what you want, what you don’t want, and what makes you feel good. Honest conversations lead to better experiences and stronger connections, whether the relationship is casual or committed.
3. Your Pleasure Matters
Sex is a two-way street. Your pleasure is just as important as your partner’s. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you like or explore new ways to feel good. You deserve to enjoy sex as much as anyone else.
4. Safe Sex = Empowered Sex
Condoms, birth control, and regular STI checks are essential for both your health and peace of mind. Safe sex isn’t just smart—it’s empowering. Being prepared means you can enjoy the experience without unnecessary worry.
5. No Two Bodies Are the Same
Everyone's body is different, and what works for one person might not work for another. Take time to learn what feels good for you and communicate that with your partner.
6. Masturbation is Normal and Healthy
Exploring your own body through masturbation is a great way to discover what you like. It’s healthy, normal, and can even improve your sexual experiences with a partner.
7. You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out
It’s okay if you’re not an expert at everything. Sexual experiences are part of a learning process. Be patient with yourself, and don’t feel pressured to live up to unrealistic expectations.
8. There’s No "Right" Way to Have Sex
Sex doesn’t have to look or feel like it does in movies or porn. Real sex is about mutual enjoyment, not performance. Focus on what feels good, not on trying to meet external standards.
9. Boundaries Are Your Best Friend
Knowing and expressing your boundaries is crucial. If you’re uncomfortable with something, speak up. Clear boundaries lead to better, more respectful experiences.
10. You Don’t Owe Anyone Sex
No one is entitled to your body, no matter how long you’ve been together or what someone has done for you. You have the right to say no at any time, for any reason.
11. Sexual Health is Part of Overall Health
Regular STI testing, getting vaccinated (like for HPV), and staying on top of your reproductive health are all essential. Take control of your health—your body is worth it.
12. Sex Can Be Emotional
Sex can stir up strong emotions, and that’s okay. Be honest with yourself about how sex makes you feel, and communicate your feelings with your partner to avoid misunderstandings.
13. You Define Your Own Sexuality
Your sexual orientation, desires, and identity are unique to you. There’s no need to fit into any label or box. Embrace your sexuality on your own terms.
14. Orgasms Aren’t the Only Goal
Sure, orgasms are great, but they aren’t the be-all and end-all of sex. Sometimes, the journey is just as fulfilling as the destination. Don’t stress about the "big finish."
15. Body Confidence Grows With Time
It’s normal to feel self-conscious in bed sometimes, but remember that your partner is likely just as focused on the moment as you are. Confidence grows the more you embrace and accept your body as it is.
16. It’s Okay to Say No to Casual Sex
Casual sex isn’t for everyone, and that’s perfectly fine. Listen to your instincts and never feel pressured to engage in hookups if it’s not your thing.
17. Intimacy Comes in Many Forms
Sex isn’t the only way to experience intimacy. Emotional closeness, affection, and connection are equally important and can make sex more meaningful when it does happen.
18. Respect Goes Both Ways
A healthy sexual relationship is built on mutual respect. If your partner respects your boundaries, needs, and feelings, they’re worth keeping around. If not, it’s time to re-evaluate.
19. Sex is Fun!
At the end of the day, sex is supposed to be enjoyable. Whether it’s with a long-term partner or someone new, make sure you’re having fun and not just going through the motions.
20. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Everyone’s sexual experiences and preferences are different. Avoid comparing yourself to others, and remember, there’s no "right" timeline or way to experience sex.
